What am I doing wrong?

No, you are doing nothing wrong. I had this similar issue with my daughter. First of all, is he gaining weight well? Does he have an adequate amount of wet and poopy diapers? If the answer is yes, he is getting enough. Now, for the most frustrating part....My oldest daughter was 100% soothed by the , teeting, gas, you name it, she took the to fix her problems. My second, not so much. She will take my when she is hungry, and not a moment before. If she is uncomfortable she may want to be layed down on her own, she may want to swing for a bit, but she does not want my . I still don't know why exactly she would get so fussy at my , but like you, the more I pushed it, the more pissed off she would get. I came to the conclusion that it was likely gas pains or she needed to poop...but goodness, I feel for you...SO FRUSTRATING. Babies communicate by crying...sometimes making us cry too! Good Luck.